The issue about gender as a package for trans people is that gender is a lot of things. There is “performative gender”, which is what a lot of people think of and rightly say, this is all illusion and we don’t need to invest so heavily in it. There is biological gender, aka, the biological sex, the expression of which tends to be conditioned by those socially reinforced “norms” of behavior and expression… that is where “body image” comes into play ~ that is how body image is formed, for better or worse.
A trans person’s sense of self re: gender is not at ALL about those things. It is about an intangible knowing… just as surely as you or another happily cis gender woman/man knows that you are/they are female/male ~ I know I am male ~ and that would be the case even if I were not also intersex. I hate that people can tend to think that my choices are valid and other trans people’s not ok or less ok because those people can understand why I might want and need to align my body with what is actually biologically mapped out, despite other appearances. The biological imperative, in my mind, does not make anyone’s transition any more or less valid or right.
I struggle with our limited concepts and language. We don’t HAVE a way to immerse someone in the internal transgender experience and so therefore, I get it ~ it is impossible for you to really relate to what I am describing.
Just trust that we suffer… legitimately suffer… when we are not allowed to express ourselves as we know ourselves to be ~ at the core of our beingness ~ at the level of soul, if you will.
Trust that we ought not to be made to suffer. All we are asking for is humane treatment and compassionate regard… and that we be given an acknowledgement that everyone else on the planet has and can TAKE FOR GRANTED: that we ARE who and what we say we are.
~ Adam Lodestone
Founder Transgender Encounter Project
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